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Keeping the children you love safe

We all have a role in stopping child sexual exploitation


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Keeping the children you love safe


We all have a role in stopping child sexual exploitation

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With 16,500 children at high risk of sexual exploitation in England, it’s important you know how to protect the children you love.

This page will help you be more aware, more confident – and if necessary, able to step in when you’re needed most.





What exactly is child sexual exploitation?

Child sexual exploitation is a type of sexual abuse involving control of a child through force, threats or manipulation. It can happen to both boys and girls. Often, the first step is someone befriending a young person to gain their trust or have control over them. This is called grooming, and can lead to children being abused and raped.

Children can be groomed online or in the real world, by a stranger or by someone they know.

 An abuser can be any age, even the same age as the child. It will often involve an abuser providing something to a child such as food, drugs, alcohol, gifts, or even simply affection, and victims are often tricked into thinking their abuser is a friend or even a ‘boyfriend’.

Once they have the child’s trust or control over them, an abuser will then move on to physically or sexually abusing a child. They may steer conversations towards sexual experiences, asking the child to send sexual photos or videos of themselves which they might use to blackmail the child. They might threaten the child saying they will hurt their family or friends if they tell anyone.





What should young people know?

It's important children know how to keep safe. Small chats over time can help them remember what you’ve discussed without it seeming like a lecture.

As many young people have access to technology and the internet, it is important that you and they understand it is easy for people to lie to them online, particularly if they have never met them. People can lie about their ages, for example.

Explain once they share personal details online, including pictures, they need to understand they lose control over where these might end up. This means that people shouldn’t share anything they wouldn’t be happy for everyone to see with anyone else.





What can you do to stop children being groomed?

Adults can ensure that they have some control over what young people can access online by placing restriction settings on devices with an internet connection, including laptops, phones and consoles. Find out more at thinkuknow.co.uk.

Children should also be made aware that they should never arrange to meet someone they only know online without an adult they trust.

It is also important that children and young people know they can speak to adults around them if they need to, or get anonymous support if they don’t feel they can speak to anyone they know by calling ChildLine on 0800 1111.

Always call the police when a child goes missing, even if this happens regularly. You do not need to wait 24 hours.

Remember that you should listen to what children say and take it seriously. It’s important you believe them.





Signs of grooming to look out for

Many of these are common teenage behaviours, but keep an eye out for increased instances of changes in behaviour:

  • Being secretive about who they are talking to and where they are going

  • Often returning home late or staying out all night

  • Sudden changes in their appearance and wearing more revealing clothes

  • Becoming involved in drugs or alcohol, particularly if you suspect they are being supplied by older men or women

  • Becoming emotionally volatile (mood swings are common in all young people, but more severe changes could indicate that something is wrong)

  • Using sexual language that you wouldn’t expect them to know

  • Engaging less with their usual friends

  • Appearing controlled by their phone

  • Switching to a new screen when you come near the computer.

 

Less common behaviours could include:

  • Being associated with a gang

  • Becoming estranged from family

  • Reguarly missing school

  • Associating with older men and women, particularly if they go missing and are being defensive about where they are and what they’re doing

  • Possessing items such as phones or jewellery that you haven’t given them but which they couldn’t afford to buy themselves

  • Having more than one, or a secret phone.





Signs of sexual exploitation

You should be aware of the following effects of exploitation and abuse.

  • They are regularly suffering from sexually transmitted infections

  • They have unexplained physical injuries such as bruising

  • Having mood swings or being emotionally volatile

  • Self-harm or suicide attempts.

What you can do to help?

 If you think a child could be in immediate danger tell your local police at once or dial 999.

If you are concerned about a child’s welfare, please contact your local council’s social care department or find their number in the phonebook.

 You can report any concerns about online grooming to the National Crime Agency.

Report any child abuse images you find online to the Internet Watch Foundation.

If a child wants to talk to someone in confidence they can call ChildLine on 0800 1111 or Get Connected on 0808 808 4994 (text 80849). 

Children need your help

Children and young people are being exploited across the UK and many are not getting the right therapeutic support to cope with their trauma.

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