Posted: 11 September 2020

School children share top tips on what to do if you're being bullied

Strong friendships are a key ingredient of children’s well-being, yet this years Good Childhood Report found that children in the UK are increasingly unhappy with their friendships and school.

When asked why this might be, one young person said ‘They could be being bullied or don't feel welcome among their friends. They could also get left out of activities the friends do together but can't leave the group because they are scared to be alone.’ 

To understand this more, we caught up with our My Voice project, a group of school pupils who have become peer mentors and anti-bullying ambassadors. They give up their lunchtimes to help others prevent bullying and enhance emotional well-being. We asked them to share with us how people feel when they are bullied and their top tips for dealing with bullying. 

How do people feel when they are bullied?

Bullying, no matter whether it's physical bullying or online emotional bullying, can have serious long-lasting impacts on young people.

The anti-bullying ambassadors agreed it's common to feel "lonely, like no one cares or understands". They also identified feelings of "low self-worth and low self-esteem" as effects of bullying, and it's common for victims of bullying to blame themselves.

'You don't believe in yourself and you have little confidence.'

On the other side, some of the young ambassadors said, "you feel like the bully is the one with the problem...maybe they're jealous, depressed, angry and feel inadequate." They conclude that "bullies need just as much help as victims of the bullies."

What should you do if you are being bullied?

The young anti-bullying ambassadors then shared their advice for what to do if you're being bullied. Here's what they told us:

Ignore them

Try to ignore and not let the bully see that you are upset.

Stay calm

Stay relaxed and calm, stay with your friends and avoid being on your own.

Tell someone

Tell someone you trust what happened.

Talk about the problem

Talk to someone who may help find a solution to the problem.

Report it

Report the incident to someone in school or police if it continues.

Don't worry about getting into trouble

Don’t be scared of getting into more trouble, you are a victim here. Tell people how you feel and stick up for yourself.

As children return to the classroom this September, we need to kick-start a decade of renewal for young people by prioritising their well-being. It is only by listening to young people can we help them overcome the challenges of modern childhood and face their future with hope, confidence and optimism.

If you'd like to find out more about the issues affecting young people's well-being in 2020, read our Good Childhood Report.


By Anti-bullying school ambassadors

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