Everybody has sexuality, but not everybody’s sexuality is the same

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Sexuality is a combination of your sexual orientation (ie which gender you are sexually attracted to) and your ability to experience sexual feelings. Your sexuality can also be a word used to describe your sexual activity.

Sexual orientation can be fluid, meaning that it can change for some people over time. For others their sexual orientation is more fixed. Some of the labels that are used to talk about sexual orientation are:

  • Homosexual/Gay/Lesbian: This is when a person is attracted to someone that is the same gender as themselves.
  • Heterosexual/Straight: This is when a person is attracted to someone of the opposite gender to themselves.
  • Bi-sexual: This is when someone is attracted to both the female and male genders.
  • Asexual: This is the inability to experience any sexual feelings at all.
  • Polysexual: This is the sexual attraction to more than one gender, but polysexual people do not wish to be known as bisexual as it implies that there are only two binary sexes (poly=many).
  • Pansexual: This is the sexual attraction towards people regardless of gender (pan=any)
  • Transsexual: This is when a person identifies themselves with a physical sex that is different to the biological one that they are born with.

Top tips

  • Access websites: The LGBT community is more vocal and supportive then it ever has been and can provide you with support and information.
  • Talk to someone: If you are struggling with your sexuality it can help to speak to someone that you trust about it.
  • Protect yourself: Being sexually active is common for young people, however it is important to protect yourself and know what is okay and what is not okay (see the link below about safe sex).
  • Speak up: Whether they are confident or not about their sexuality, some people are vulnerable to being taken advantage of. If you feel that something is not right, you must speak to someone or contact a service that can help such as ChildLine (0800 1111) or SupportLine (01708 765 200).

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