Children and young people

If you are a young person who is worried about a parent's drinking or drug misuse, this page is for you.

On this page we have information, resources and support about parental drug and alcohol misuse, and how it can affect you and your family. We also want to make sure that your voice is heard if you live in a family affected by drugs or alcohol.

Children and young people have told us that when a parent drinks and takes drugs it can make things difficult at home and cause problems and worries (read some of their quotes).

If you have a similar situation at home, know that:

• It's not your fault
• You can't stop your parent's behaviour
• There are people who understand and can help

If you're worried or need to talk to someone now, call ChildLine on 0800 1111 or visit their website.

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Resources

We have provided worksheets to help you think about any difficulties and worries you may have and what you could do about it.

• Worksheet 1: Draw your house, family, friends or something you enjoy.  
• Worksheet 2: Think about your home and school life. 
• Worksheet 3: Think about what could happen and what you can do if it does.  
• Worksheet 4: Think about what makes you smile so that you can enjoy these things when you feel upset or worried.
• Worksheet 5: Think about your goals so that you can plan and look forward to your future.  

There are several websites that can provide guidance.

• Advice on drugs and alcohol from the Carers Trust - information 
• FRANK - friendly, confidential drugs advice
• Call ChildLine on 0800 1111 or visit their website if you're worried or need to talk to someone now.
• Children of Addicted Parents and People (COAP) - for young people living with a family member's addiction to drugs, alcohol or behaviour such as gambling.
• Alateen - for teenage relatives and friends of alcoholics
• Fixers - shared stories and advice

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Other young people's experiences

Many children and young people have told us that when a parent drinks and takes drugs it can make things difficult at home, and cause problems and worries. Here are quotes from some of the young people we've worked with.

'I didn't realise there were other kids like me - I thought I was all alone.'

  - boy, aged 12 

'Sometimes I draw to take my mind off it. And I just try and concentrate on one at a time to just cool my temperature down and stop crying and stuff.'

  - girl, aged 8

'When my nana talked to me about it she was really kind, and she helped me get over it. She says that everything is going to be OK.'

  - girl, aged 8

'It felt really good when i could talk to people because I felt like a bottle ready to explode and I didn't want that to happen.'

  - boy, aged 12

Learn more and take action

• Call ChildLine on 0800 1111 or visit their website if you're worried or need to talk to someone now.
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• Find resources for adults and professionals.